Being asked to be someone’s bridesmaid is a massive honour. It shows that they trust you and that they want you by their side on one of the most important days of their life! We all know the gist of what a bridesmaid does but, if we’ve never done it before, it can seem like a bit of a daunting task. It’s important to know exactly what’s expected of you should you choose to accept the role! It will depend on each individual bride how much work you’ll have to do but you can pretty much take it for granted that you’re going to be busy over the coming months!


–     Your first job will be to help the bride shop for her wedding dress. Chances are you’ll be receiving numerous emails and text messages with links to potential dresses before you step foot in any shop. Share the excitement with your bride and, within reason, don’t be afraid to give honest feedback. She’ll appreciate you getting involved rather than just saying yes to every dress.


–     Next up, you’ll be helping your bride to look for her accessories. Once she’s chosen her dress, you’ll have a better idea of what shoes and jewellery will suit. Your bride will probably have a few styles in mind already but will appreciate the support and second opinion.


–     When it comes to choosing bridesmaid dresses, be sure to get involved in the process. Again, it will vary from one bride to the next but, most likely, she’ll want you in a dress that you like, you feel comfortable and confident in and that will suit the theme of the wedding. Work together on this one. Saying that you don’t mind what dress you wear only puts your bride under pressure and gives the impression that you’re not all that interested. You may as well choose something you like and might even wear again!

–     It’s your job to organise the hen party. Some brides will want their bridesmaids to completely take the reins, not having any idea of what they’re doing until the day comes. Others will want to be involved in the planning but will still be expecting a few surprises. They want to feel spoiled and special, surrounded by their best friends. You’ve really got to think about what they would enjoy and expect for their hen party. Keep reminding yourself that it’s all about them!


–     Your services will most definitely be required for some ‘wedmin’! This could involve anything from painting jars to assembling invitations. It’s essential that you make yourself available for these jobs. You’ll have a bit of craic doing them too and you’ll be able to rest easy knowing that you’re relieving the bric.


–     On the morning of the wedding, make sure you and everyone else in the house remembers that it’s all about the bride. Let’s face it, we’re all a bit self-conscious. It’s easy to caught up in having our hair and makeup looking exactly how we want it but try to resolve any issues without involving the bride. One of your many jobs today is to keep the day as enjoyable and stress-free for her as possible. Make sure that everyone is organised and that they keep to the schedule. The last thing you need is the stress of someone running around packing their luggage a few minutes before leaving the house!

–     Keep an eye on the bride’s hair and makeup throughout the day and carry a bridal survival kit with you. Let her know when she needs a top up on lippy or if her hair needs a bit of taming after braving the good old Irish weather. Carry a bag of bobby pins, hair spray, lipstick, blotting paper, deodorant and other essentials you might need.


–    A bride should have to do no more than show up and enjoy herself on her wedding day and it’s up to you to make that possible. Of course, you’ll enjoy yourself too but do keep in mind that you’re on duty! Don’t just sit back with a group of friends, mingle with all of the guests. Be the first person to clap when the newly married couple arrive to their drinks reception and be the first person up on the dance floor after dinner. Make it a wedding to remember by keeping the atmosphere alive!


Can you think of any more bridesmaid responsibilities that should be added? What you expect of your bridesmaids in the planning stages and on the day of your wedding? Let us know!



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